Your Sex Life, Your Choice

 

While our society is being torn apart by negative

sexual orientation (which some would claim is a relative term), there is, however, a growing, God-inspired wave of youngsters rising up around the world; and it would be a thing of great joy to see that you are a part of them. These have chosen to view sex and their sexuality as God originally designed it: a gift to be enjoyed ONLY inside marriage. But the question is: how did they get here?

They took some deliberate steps, and that’s what I would like to share with you:

•      They made a decision to wait for sex. Every new direction in life starts with a simple choice. For sex, you too would have to make a choice, whether to wait or not, like they have done.

•      They chose friends who shared their values. Choose your friends; do not let it be the other way round. Know the kind of company you keep. They will determine how far you will go with God. If you are dating someone, make sure they share your values.

•      They stayed single until they were ready for marriage. It doesn't matter how far you think you have drifted away from the right path with some girlfriend or boyfriend; you have to make a decision to drop them and remain single till you do it right when you eventually get married.

•      They don’t fill their minds with sex. In the same way, you'd need to avoid sexually-charged music, books, movies, places, and even people, for they are capable of filling your mind with sex. Note this though: if you’ve been abused or raped in the past, realise your virginity was not taken from you. You’re still a virgin in God’s eyes, until you choose to give that away.

•      They stayed away from alcohol and drugs knowing that Jesus owns them now and that they won't want to crucify Him again by sinning against Him so. Do you know that people do dumb things when they’re drunk or high? Do not wait to get a first-hand bitter experience before you think of backing out. You may never have the opportunity to back out.

•      They realised that it would be tough. Your hormones, movies, music, and peer pressure will tempt you to throw away your values. The journey would be tough, but would you persevere on the right path?

So, dear friend, if you make a mistake, learn from it. Ask God for forgiveness and the power to stand strong, because He is able to forgive you and cleanse you from all unrighteousness (1st John 1:9).

This does not mean temptation doesn't come their way, or that temptation won’t come your way when you choose this path. Rather, these people are resolute and responsible. So, when you feel tempted to commit sexual sin, pray and ask God for strength. Read James 5:16.

Finally, one last thing I'd recommend is that you have to spend time with God, His Word, and His people. This is way too important if you must grow your spiritual muscles and be able to withstand the temptation of sexual sin. Find a church you can call home. These would build up your spiritual immunity. Read also Ephesians 6:13.

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