Handling Sexual Feelings (Part 1)

 Why do you have these Sexual Feelings?

This is simple. It is as I have said before. You have attained a stage in growth called puberty. As your body develops, changes occur, including in your thoughts and feelings. This is as a result of sexual hormones your body is producing. It’s all part of growing up.

Beyond your thoughts and feelings, your daily life, your relationship with others and how you even see yourself will change. Life can become pretty confusing and embarrassing as you try to deal with these changes; but it’s not all bad news: it can also be an exciting and wonderful experience too.

These feelings can want to make you want to be so close to someone who attracts you. Your body will feel excited, or shivery, or warm, or tingly whenever you think about the person. Yep, it can be crazy. I believe you can relate.

But then, understand that all of these are happening because God wired you, programmed you, to be like that. You were designed from Day One with these feelings. However, this is not so that you can begin to explore these feelings as soon as you began to have them. They were put there for your exploration and enjoyment only when you get married. Anything outside this amounts to sin.

When I come your way again next week, I shall be shedding more light on this. Please keep checking in, and share your thoughts with us. God bless.

Sexual Behaviour and the Youth

Modern culture has tried to define sexuality as a personal right to be practiced any way one desires. Sexual behaviour is considered a personal choice, similar to taking the decision to buy a car or build a house. The word ‘sin’ has been stomped out from this definition, and the only sexual expression considered wrong is what is seen as distasteful to the definer.

When it comes to relationships particularly with the opposite sex, you have to tread carefully – that is, if you love God. As a child of God, He doesn’t expect you to just jump into relationships like the people of the world would do. You know the drill. Let’s look at how it is for a guy. 

Your body enters puberty stage, and begins to send signals to your brain which can be embarrassing sometimes, as you find it difficult to share these things with others. You begin to have feelings for the opposite sex. Sometimes it can be random; other times, it could be for one particular girl in your neighbourhood. You can’t seem to get these thoughts out of your head most of the time, and then you even catch yourself fantasising about her. Before you know it, you begin to daydream about how you can touch her and do things with her, and you wonder where these thoughts are coming from. Then, when you sleep at night, you have wet dreams – you wake up and discover that you have soiled yourself with some discharge.

And it goes on and on. I believe that this is the same experience too for young girls entering the same stage in life. I also believe that every human being (adult) went through this experience at this stage. I always tell young people whenever I get to speak to them about relationship with the opposite sex that it is very normal to feel this way, and that it is not a sin to feel this way; in fact, anyone who never had sexual feelings would have to see a doctor. So, if it is normal, what then is the problem? Why feel embarrassed about it? Why isn’t it okay to just walk over to the person to tell the person how you feel? Or is it? If yes, after then, what next? If the feeling is mutual, what then? Time to explore each other’s bodies? Hmm…

You see, the point I am making isn’t that sexual sin starts with fornication and graduates all the way to sodomy, as though it is a step by step thing into more hideous forms of sexual perversion. No. There are many young people today who have never engaged in fornication before, but masturbate or have been sodomised.

Also, many young people are so caught up, snatched up, in this rat race for relationship with the opposite sex. For many, the instant they begin to have these feelings, they begin to look for answers. Sadly, majority find answers in the wrong places. Because they are not in touch with God, because they do not have godly parents, because they do not have any spiritual parent figure in their lives, they get the kind of advice, answer, that their sexual urges desire, long for, and then they are derailed, for some, for life.

This is the reason why the word ‘fornication’ exists today. When it graduates and goes extreme, it becomes prostitution and then lesbianism, homosexuality and sodomy. This amounts to moral decadence and degeneration. There is a loss of sound judgment and rape could become the case when the individual loses control completely.

The above picture seems to present a hopeless case. But the good news is that it isn’t. There is hope, and there is a way out. There is something to do to salvage the situation. But then, when I come your way again next week, I will  begin posing some questions, and then make attempts to answer them one after the other. God bless!

A Call from the Life of Sexual Immorality

 

And the desolate land shall be tilled, that which had lain desolate in the sight of all who passed by. And they shall say, This land that was desolate has become like the garden of Eden, and the waste and desolate and ruined cities are fortified and inhabited. Then the nations that are left round about you shall know that I the Lord have rebuilt the ruined places and replanted that which was desolate. I the Lord have spoken it, and I will do it (Ezekiel 36:34-36, Amplified).

This was the Scripture God imprinted in my heart some time ago. He spoke expressly to me, saying, “I am bringing My people back to Eden.” I didn’t understand what He meant then, but as I began to meditate on what He has said, He began to open amazing things to my spirit, from that day till this day. It is some of these things I am willing to keep sharing with you here every Thursday.

The above Scripture mirrors the state of God’s people who have been ravaged and reduced to near nothingness as a result of exile brought about by sin. But God is ever merciful. Here, He promised them not just a restoration, but beautification with it. First, He promised that their land shall be tilled, and passersby who see it will say the land has become like the Garden of Eden. Remember that when God placed the man He created in Eden, he had the responsibility of tilling (or ‘dressing and keeping’, according to Genesis 2:15, King James Version) the Garden. This made the Garden of Eden a beauty to behold. Eden, by the way, amongst others, means ‘delight’, and ‘well-watered’. It represents a place where the Presence of God is. So, in essence, God delights in Eden, or His own, as it were. 

The next thing people will say is that the cities of these people of God have become fortified and inhabited. God thus promises a replanting for His people. Herein lies the restoration and eventual beautification of a people hitherto shattered and destroyed by exile brought about by the clutches of sin.

Now, do you in one way or the other see how the above concerns you too? As a child of God, have you at some point departed from the right path, and fallen short of the glory of God? Are you right now held down by the bondage of sin (and I am particular about sexual sin)? Have you gotten entangled in a lifestyle of sexual sin as a result of being in a wrong relationship? Imagine the beautification that God has promised you – but this is contained in a coming back by you to His original plan and purpose for you.

Understand that Eden was God’s original plan for His people. In other words, God’s original plan before Genesis Chapter Three was that the man and his wife would live a life of complete pleasure and luxury, without any stress whatsoever, in His Presence. Eden was a delightsome land, full of everything good, all the resources the man and his wife would ever need for the actualisation of the original plan.

This was, for them, as long as they remain connected to the Source – God Himself. Suffice to say that the man and his wife enjoyed a level of grace while they were in the Garden of Eden. It was a grace that eliminated struggle. It was a grace that eliminated human effort to get whatever they wanted. They had everything provided for them. But sin took all of that away with one singular visit from Satan in Genesis 3.

You must understand that sin is a dragnet, a limiting factor to accessing all that God has planned for you. This is especially true if you are consistently living a life of sin and ignoring God’s warning for you to return to Him (Malachi 3:7). God’s will has to prevail in our lives, nothing more, nothing less, nothing else, at all cost.

The point I am making here is that what happened with Adam and Eve, what happened with the children of Israel as we saw in Ezekiel 36 where we read, isn’t farfetched from our lives today, as far as relationship with the opposite sex is concerned. Eden was the testing ground for man’s faithfulness to God’s commands. Through disobedience, the Garden was lost and man’s relationship with Him was severed. God has however once again given everything back to us, in bringing us back to Eden. But how? How is this possible, seeing that man fell (sinned) in Eden, resulting in the pollution of everything? Are we all literally going back to Eden as it was from the beginning? Well, here is the answer: Scriptures declare:

God has done all this. He has restored our relationship with Him through Christ, and has given us this ministry of restoring relationships.

In other words, God was using Christ to restore His relationship with humanity. He did not hold people’s faults against them, and He has given us this message of restored relationships to tell others.

Therefore, we are Christ’s representatives, and through us God is calling you. We beg you on behalf of Christ to become reunited with God (2nd Corinthians 5:18-20, God’s Word Translation).

Thus, going back to Eden simply refers to becoming reconnected to God. It refers to forsaking the lifestyle of sin and embracing sweet communion with God as it was in the beginning. Sweet communion with God, a life free from (sexual) sin, gives you everything you’d ever need, like it was with Adam in the Garden before the fall.

Watch this Video!!!

This video was shot during the Valentine Day celebration, 2021. I was invited by the Highflyers Global Glory Ministry to minister to the young people. I trust you will find it refreshing. The message is still relevant today. Do enjoy and then tell us what you think in the comment section below. God bless you!