Packaging Yourself: #SexualFeelings, #Dressing

 

On the 1st of November, 2020, I had the privilege of speaking to a group of youngsters

on the subject of “Packaging Yourself”. The topic became necessary after the leader of the teens church, in the church where we fellowship, Dcns. Chidimma, and I have observed certain trends among some of the youngsters under us, particularly regarding their dressing which does not reflect godliness. In fact, at some point, I had to ask her, “Where are their mothers?” I had to ask that because I couldn’t help wondering whether their mothers didn’t see them leaving home dressed like they were, and also where they got the disgraceful outfits in the first place. We therefore decided that this has to be addressed.

Amongst other things that happened that day as I spoke to them, I asked to know if there was any amongst them who have never had sexual feelings before. Of course they all have. I mentioned that they were born with these sexual feelings; that to have these sexual feelings isn’t a sin, but what they do with it is what can be termed sinful or not.

We must understand that we were born with sexual feelings; and this isn’t so that we should begin to explore them as soon as we begin to notice them. These sexual feelings are meant to be explored only by the married. It would be absurd of course if the only time you begin to have sexual feelings is when you are ready for marriage.

As a youngster, when you begin to notice these sexual feelings, it could be embarrassing. Imagine a guy trying in vain to hide a bulge below the belt just at the sight of a scantily clad young lady. Yeah, it could be a lot easier for the young lady at the sight of a guy she admires, but not for the guy in this situation.

As a youngster, you will face the temptation and the near uncontrollable urge to explore these sexual feelings. This is why you may see yourself thinking about all kinds of crazy things, and even going as far as touching your own body. The truth is, you will most definitely, like a dog at the sight of a bone, roll over on your back if there is none to guide you properly in these matters.

Remember that God loves you so much, that He came to die for you to be free. Beyond this, He went all the way to die for you, even when it was uncertain whether you will accept Him or not. If you have an understanding of this, then doesn’t it follow that you reciprocate same?

Even after the aforementioned meeting with the youngsters, and several others, it is saddening to know that some still continue to live their lives the way they please. I once ran into one of them and the dress she had on was so embarrassing, not just to anyone that saw her that day, but also to herself. It was so clear that she was very uncomfortable in the outfit. I asked her to see me after service and when she did, I said to her, “You know what? Imagine that there was a great guy God has prepared to meet you today, and would have loved to end up with you as his wife; but seeing your dress and how that you have exposed your breasts for all who came to church today to see, he has changed his mind. Now you think about that!” When she heard that, the smile on her face flattened out and disappeared. I smiled at her and walked away. I couldn’t think of what else to say to her at that material time as I was so disgusted at her outfit.

What am I saying?

You see, as a young lady not envisaging marriage any time soon, the reason why you have the bad, ugly and uncouth guys coming to ask you out is because they have seen something about you, probably your dressing. Well, only you can answer that; but for most, it is as a result of their dressing. Why tempt guys with the way you dress? Why expose half your breasts for the whole world to see? Seriously, what is the point and/or sense in that? 

Why put on a see-through dress? Why put on a long gown that hides your feet as they sweep the floor after you, but is so tight and revealing all you have, and has a slit all the way up to almost your backside? Indeed, why dress to kill, putting on the most skimpy dress or the most tight outfit that would outline all your body contours, whether a long, overflowing gown or a pair of trousers, and ‘wonder’ why guys won’t just leave you alone? Isn’t your body designed for only one man out there whom God has prepared for you? Since this is the case, why would you do this, for Christ’s sake? After you get married, do you know that all the men who have seen you half dressed would still have images of you like that running in their heads? Don’t you think you are contributing to sending them to hell?

You see, if this is you described above, please take it from me – if you sincerely have any thought of God somewhere in your heart – that you have a problem to deal with. Similarly, the guys who approach you have a problem to deal with. Your minds are so polluted you’d need much more than a whole pack of detergent to make it clean! You need to package yourself physically and spiritually. 

I'll be explaining more of this when I come your way again. Keep checking in. In the meantime, you can leave your comments and questions here, and I'll be sure to reply you. God bless you richly!